My third son Gabriel had a lot of problems, in utero and after his birth. I am so thankful for his sweet and loving heart!
When I was in my 7th month with him, we moved from So. Cal to Washington State. Aaron was getting ready to start school, and having experienced the schools in So Cal, I didn't want my children to attend them.
We moved to Ephrata, Wa. where I had attended schools for quite awhile growing up, and I felt the schools were better.
I brought my pregnancy records with me, from the Dr. in Calif. to give to the Dr. here, but he decided I needed a pelvic exam in my 8th month, not a good idea! He proceeded to tell me the baby was going to be born with (I can't remember the word now, but it meant water on the brain). My other Dr. had said nothing about that, so this scared me.
When Gabriel was born, he seemed perfectly fine, and he went through his developmental stages just like the other kids had. Except at 8 months old, his Father DROPPED him once, he landed on his head. I would never allow his father to hold the baby again!
Gabriel walked at 11 months, not out of normal range, and he talked at the right stage too, but he seemed very clumsy and his balance wasn't always great.
Then at three, he fell off the top of a tall playground slide, again, landing on his head. At five he wrecked his bike and had a goose egg the size of a baseball all across his forehead.
I'm truly not sure if those falls are what affected him or not, but was beginning to wonder. Then at 6 he got hit by a car! Poor little guy just couldn't get a break, unless it was a bone! So actually in first grade, he was put into special ed classes.
He spent all of his school years in Special classes, and in 10th and 11th grade, was in Special Olympics. But he was such a good runner, he has over a dozen gold and silver medals that he is very proud of.
He graduated from High School at 19, and went into Job Corps.
All of his life, he wanted to be a Fireman, so in Job Corps that is what he chose to train in. He did wildland firefighting for two years until one in Montana where he was overcome by smoke and ended up in the hospital with damaged lungs. It really broke his heart because he wasn't acceptable to do firefighting anymore.
He has seemed unable to keep a job of any sort, since. He will try different ones, but something always comes up to make him lose the job. We have tried to get him on disability several times, but they keep denying it. He lives on his own though, in HUD housing, and keeps looking for work. His last job, he fell down a set of stairs because he had his hands full of tools and couldn't grab the railing, so now he has back problems too! Once again, we are trying to get him disability.
Aside from all that though, he was normal in most respects and had girlfriends. With one, he had his son Krystian, who is a *Baby of my Heart*. The mother let me have him at 9 months old because she wasn't ready to raise a baby. I have had him off and on since, and he is now 10 years old.
Then he had another girlfriend who, to me, was not a nice person at all and treated him abominably. Unfortunately, he had a baby with her, too, and she is named Lilly. She is 7 now. He went to planned parenthood and got a vasectomy after Lilly, and we are all thankful for that.
He is a wonderful Father however, and spends every week end with his children. They come to his house and stay or sometimes he and the kids will come and stay with me. Lilly and Krystian decorated my Christmas tree this (last) year.
He doesn't have a girlfriend right now, but he would like to, as he gets lonely for the company sometimes. Then he will come to my place and help me do things, like make my bed or vaccuum. He will take out the trash and clean the catbox, then watch tv. My heart just aches for him sometimes. He is the sweetest guy, he will help my neighbors carry groceries or whatever they need, when he is here. They just love him too.
He is the only one of my kids that has an uncertain future, and I'm glad his sister and oldest brother are near, as they spend time with him, too. He is such a good man in spite of all his problems.