I always write a Mother's Day article on my column, mostly to thank my own children for having made me a Mom, and giving me such joy and fulfillment in my life!
Of course, I need to thank my own Mom for giving me life, even though she has been gone now for 10 years.
I had a very difficult childhood, as I'm sure many of you did. It is what we made of our lives for ourselves after, that matters the most now.
I always wanted children. Mostly, I think, to give them a good life, much better than the one I had.
I believe I succeeded in this, too! I raised four of my own children, mostly as a single parent, but even before that, I helped raise two younger brothers and a sister.
We were poor as a family while I was growing up, and unfortunately, with a few exceptions along the way, I have pretty much remained that way!
I took my younger sister with me when I moved out on my own. Renting a small duplex with two bedrooms and finishing my last year of High School at the same time.
Having my own place was the FIRST time I had ever had a bedroom to myself! I had all the fun a kid would have decorating and being able to lock the door etc.
Anyway, I soon married my HS sweetheart, who got drafted just two months after we married. After a few years, and several miscarriages, I finally got to have a son! I was so thrilled and my little sister got to be a *big sister* Sort of!
It took about 7 years before I realized this marriage would not work out, so I took my sister and my son, and became a single mom again! At that time, my sister chose to go back to the parents.
A few years later I met my 2nd husband. We married and had three more children, 2 boys and a girl.
I tried very hard to make it a good marriage, but after 11 years, there really was no hope of that, and now with four children, I was on my own!
I have to say, it was quite an adventure! Between making sure they did well in school, keeping them fed and clothed, and in a real home. We didn't have a quantity of time because I was usually working two or more jobs, and even once trying to finish college. The time we DID have was quality however, and all of us survived, close and loving as a family.
As I look back now, from the lofty perch of *Grandmother*, I both laugh and cry at how very blessed my life has been! Helping raise younger siblings, being on my own with four, and helping others raise their children, I've been "the other Mom" to about 15!
My oldest son has been married for around 17 years, and has given me four beautiful Grandchildren, three boys and a girl! (such a coincidence). We lost the first child, I wondered how any of would live through it, but we did, and life with his wife continued, with more babies and still a good marriage! We have Eisaya who is 13, Jordan who is 7, Paeton age 3, and Jeshua soon to be a year old.
My second son is married also, no children yet, but he and his wife say they might adopt one day.
My third son isn't married, but we have an almost 10 year old son, Krystian and a seven year old daughter, Lilly.
My daughter has been married just under two years and they are hoping to have a child as soon as they can.
Life is a very precious thing, and seldom turns out the way we thought it would go. Making it the best life we can is what really counts.
I hope for all Moms that you are proud of your life and accomplishments and will sit back, relax and let those we have raised and loved join us in a Happy and Blessed Day!
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY to you! :-)